We often want a quick fix when it comes to our fertility. We dutifully kick the coffee beans, order more wild salmon, consume endless amounts of esoteric Chinese herbs and get poked with needles twice a week. We double up on our greens, start using castor oil packs and listen to mindfulness apps with the hopes of relaxing ourselves into pregnancy. Some of us skip natural remedies altogether and make a bee-line for IVF — a costly and physically taxing route — but after a certain age, we stop believing in our bodies.
We do these things and expect instant results. Instead of building up healthy habits over many months — or years — we are disappointed when our bodies don’t yield to our commands and our timetable. This is an upshot of our culture of instant gratification and high productivity –something which has taken a hammering lately due to Covid-19.
We are finally being forced to slow down, to surrender to so much that is out of our control. Most agree that this slowing down is actually good for us, even though many of us find it challenging.
In Ayurveda, a sophisticated approach to wellness practiced in India for at least five thousand years, slowing down is not only integral to overall wellbeing but also to preventing aging. This applies to fertility of course. When we are trying to conceive, it is easy to become anxious and rush things, but the most meaningful gift we can give ourselves is to be patient and to start taking care of our whole selves — spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally. Arguably the only way we can authentically do this is by slowing down. Instead of packing our schedules, we need to give ourselves time and space to turn our attention towards contemplative practices like yoga and meditation. Instead of eating food on the run between meetings, we need to sit down and eat mindfully, without looking at the TV, computer or iPhone in front of us. Slowing down may seem counterintuitive to someone worried about her biological clock ticking, but it does wonders for our “ojas,” an Ayurvedic term that refers to the body’s vital essence promoting health, immunity, and spiritual strength.
There is a whole focus in Ayurveda on preconception care — pregnancy begins months before conception where both man and woman actively harness the body’s natural ability to cleanse and renew. Diet is one of the main areas of concentration in couples trying to conceive in Ayurveda. Ojas-building foods such as dates and figs, okra and sweet potatoes and healthy fats and oils such as ghee are consumed. Herbs like amla, ashwagandha, ginger, turmeric, and shatavari are incorporated into the couples’ diet as are practices like self-massage with sesame or coconut oils, as part of a set of daily self-care rituals called “dinacharya.” There is also quite a bit of focus on syncing with nature. Ayurveda, which is based on the ancient vedas, regards nature as our greatest healer.
I discovered Ayurveda in my late twenties, but didn’t start deeply exploring it until I went on a 9-month detox from dating, which I call a spiritual ‘Man Fast’, in my late 30s. I was single when I embarked upon this journey of self-discovery — I left New York City and spent time in the lush, jungle-like environment of Kerala, the birthplace of Ayurveda, studying and submitting myself to various aspects of this ancient health system — which is gaining more popularity in the United States. At the time, I knew I wanted to have a child, and I wanted to preserve my fertility as long as possible. I changed in countless ways during this period — not only was my approach to food and overall health entirely transformed but I learned to slow down and take better care of myself.
There is a happy ending to this story: I met someone when I turned 41 and we got pregnant naturally the first time we had sex. The truth is, I’d been taking care of my body and my soul, feeding it with love and nourishing foods; I had been ‘readying’ it for conception for quite some time before I met someone. And that is something we can learn from Ayurveda. For those women try to conceive: slow down and trust your body. Commit to Ayurveda’s holistic approach to wellbeing, one that aims to enhance spiritual, emotional and physical health. Doing the deep work to make the body super fertile is not something that can happen overnight, but there is so much that we can start doing now to boost our chances of a healthy pregnancy.
So slow down, take some deep breaths, and begin the journey.
Natasha Scripture is an author and Ayurveda health coach helping women to boost their fertility. She is certified in Ayurveda Foundations from the California College of Ayurveda and has studied the Ayurvedic Art of Health and Healing with Dr. Vasant Lad, founder of the Ayurvedic Institute in Albuquerque, New Mexico. She has completed a health coach certification at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN). Her first book Man Fast: A Memoir is now available on Amazon.com.